Tag: Lisa Trimarchi
Choosing Peace
One Day at a Time
One Day at a Time
You can’t grasp time
And times you can,
are never time itself
Why configure time you cannot grasp?
-Verses from the Center, Stephen Batchelor
Christmas is the season where we’re under the gun to get things done quickly, and as the Target commercial so eloquently and beautifully sings, “Counting down, counting down.” In other words, hurry up! Buy those presents, shop, shop, shop. Don’t miss that deadline of Christmas Day.
Christmas comes and goes year after year, and to me, there have been many a day suspended in time. Like Christmas Day the year I was six. I received my Easy Bake Oven and roller skates. Everyone on our street received a pair of white Roller Derby Roller Skates, and we skated all Christmas Day almost until the sun went down. None of us lost a wheel, and that Christmas is forever emblazoned in my mind. Slow down, and take it all in. One moment is here, and then in the blink of an eye it is gone.
I am a busy person these days. I work a full time job, sing in a band and with an opera group, and I also tutor students in math. I believe every moment has its place in eternity, however, and I try to relax, no matter what I am doing, and remain where I am. I try not to worry about the next day or even the next hour. I realize that as the years have gone by, there are so many things I really want to remember; and because I rushed through events in the past, I have to strain to remember a smile, a hello, or even a thank you from a favorite friend or relative.
I remember the year the fire trucks came to our neighborhood. I was probably five years old. Those trucks released the water from all the hydrants in the area. All the neighborhood children had a blast. We made paper boats and floated them down the stream that filled the street. We squealed with joy as we ran through the jets of water, and felt disappointment as the last bit of water dried up.
I remember the donut vendor that used to come by selling hot glazed donuts. Those were the best donuts I ever had and the reason I am not obese today. None today can compare to the hot gooey pleasure I derived from those donuts. These simple childhood memories are forever etched in time and seem just as alive today as they were then. When you can grasp time, it isn’t really time. It’s an eternal moment.
As people, we are always planning ahead. This has been conditioned in us since the dawn of our existence because we realized that if we did not plan for tomorrow, we would surely die in a storm, as the result of a drought, or as the result of extreme heat or extreme cold. Maybe even be eaten alive by wild animals. We have a sort of fear reflex that if we do not worry about the next day, hour, or moment, it will be to our peril.
In present times, it’s easy to worry. Many people live from paycheck to paycheck, and if they suffer a loss of income or property, they might become homeless. So there are valid reasons to worry about the unknown. However, there is an argument for living in the moment and taking each day as it comes. If this is the moment that matters, then what happens to us if we miss it?
There’ve been a few times in my life where I found myself one step away from being homeless, but what I learned was that I always found myself in better circumstances later, whether I worried or not. I spent many years living from day to day; and through this I discovered the idea of being present. I began to appreciate the little joys in life, while remaining focused on going no farther ahead than today in my mind. I still made plans, and I still put money away when I could; but in my mind I worked very hard to stay focused in the now. My reasons were few. I simply wanted to feel joy now, not ten years from now.
I stopped saying I will be happy when I get that car, when I buy that house, when I earn that degree. I started recognizing that my little girl’s smile or the sun shining in the window was all I needed to be happy. And that happiness was worth an eternity to me.
How can life flow without flowing before, flowing now, or flowing later? (Stephen Batchelor)
Therefore, the moment now is the most current, the most present, the most significant. During these stressful times try being mindful of where you are now. You will find this season becomes a permanent etching to be viewed and re-viewed from time to come.
Written by Lisa Trimarchi
Allah Ali and Kosmic Flight
Allah Ali and Kosmic Flight
Allah Ali and Kosmic Flight was a pleasure to listen to. How nice to hear some damn good folk music and guitar. This man has a voice, similar in type to Elvis, but softer and with a strong vibrato that works well with his expert acoustic sound. He has captured the old style blues and folk. I really enjoy his song writing skills as well. He paints a picture with his words. While the EP has only three songs, all are done well, but “Sugar Baby” is definitely one you must listen to.
You will want to hear this man live. His vocals are haunting, and in my perspective, he is truly an artist—having worked on his craft for over 30 years. He started playing music when he was three years old. He has certainly grown.
Allah Ali not only tells the story with his words, but his vocals add to the portrait with his expert use of silence and space with his long sustained notes. He understands how to manipulate tempo and volume to capture the ear of his listener. He playfully adds a hint of a yodel to some of the songs and gives us a little blues guitar play as well.
Allah Ali has played his music all over the Western states, making his way to the East (Coast?). I recommend listening to Allah Ali.
To learn more, visit the following websites: www.indie911.com/allahaliand www.musicforte.com/member/aababa.
Lisa Trimarchi
Ben Johnson
Ben JohnsonBen Johnson, a classically trained artist, is someone who seems to really be suffering for his art. On the cover of his debut CD, he appears to have a self-inflicted wound—a self-styled tattoo spelling out the word “Wait.” You will not want to wait to hear his self-titled CD, Ben Johnson. Ben has a beautiful baritone voice that shines in several of the songs on this CD, and his working of the keyboards is expertly done. The songwriting itself is excellent. You will want to hear the second track, “Higher Than Rock.” It incorporates pop flavor with a rock edge. And again, he’s done great work on the piano—quite a surprise from the second track. The third track, “Let It All Come Down on Me” sounds like something out of a Broadway rock opera. The vocals grab me, and the music reminds me of a sci-fi sound track. I found myself singing along to the fourth track, “Not Enough,” and was convinced that I’d like to own this one—and wouldn’t mind hearing it again! The chorus: “You’re not naked enough to share my spotlight, Johnson says, “Sometimes I feel like nobody’s listening to me until I sing a song. Inside the song I can freely speak my mind, work out the puzzle, ask for help or give it, break down or stand up.” Ben’s voice is very distinct, and I appreciate his songwriting skills. You will want to listen to his debut CD again and again, as will I. Ben’s CD is available at cdbaby.com and can be downloaded at iTunes. Visit the following websites for more information: benjohnson@steeldog.org Lisa Trimarchi |
Carol Martini’s The Rose in the Boxcar
Carol Martini’s The Rose in the Boxcar
Carol Martini has been a songwriter since she was a child. She started out with the violin, and because she is a songwriter, settled on the acoustic guitar. The Rose in the Boxcar is her fourth independent CD, which is a compilation of her original material.
Her songs are literal, non-metaphorical. She tells it like it is in a simple, albeit charming method. She has a folksy style, which she has developed while working in coffee houses, small clubs, book and music stores and college haunts.
Carol’s messages are clear. In each song her point is grasped by both the very young and the very old alike. Each of the songs on this CD could be weaved together in one long medley—each is in a similar key. Her vocals carry the style of the old time folk artist, some of what you would expect from a lone guitarist trying to jump a train.
I enjoyed the third track “Bless the Heart.” It has a more mature sound than the first two. The tune tempts the listener to sing along. The tenth track, “A Storm in the Air,” has a bluesy feel and is more along the line of what I’d expect to hear from a seasoned folk artist. The eighteenth track, “Hobo Joe,” is my favorite. It is reminiscent of an old style church revival meeting. You begin to sing along and perhaps even dance.
If you purchase this CD, the fourth track, “99 Reasons,” is also worth listening to, having more of a Johnny Cash flavor, with a hint of blues and more rhythmic guitar.
Carol Martini dedicates this CD to her father. Her lyrics are reminiscent of a little girl paying tribute by pouring out her soul in her diary. While some of Martini’s songs are wordy and at times, a little too literal, her overall work is worth listening to. You can find her music at www.carolmartini.net.
Lisa Trimarchi
Liza and the WonderWheels – Meet the Animal
Liza and the WonderWheels – Meet the Animal
If you like not too hard-edged punk with a little bit of rock, you’ll enjoy Liza and the WonderWheels’ CD, Meet the Animal. This is a group of musicians that know their craft. The songwriting is great and the vocals are good. Liza Garelik has a decent voice and the instrumentals are tight and somewhat complex—they are interesting on their own with vocals reminding me of Blondie from the early 80s.
This being their second CD, Meet the Animal demonstrates that a good rock band can sound just as good live as they do on a recording. Ian Roure plays lead guitar and handles those psychedelic lines well, Andy Mattina really stands out on the bass, and Joe Filosa’s handling of the drums is expert. This is a tight band that can hold its own.
My favorite tracki is the third track, “Hush Not Sweet Pea,” a lullaby—it has a surprising sound where it starts off as a lullaby but surprisingly morphs into a hard rock-edge with a fold style. The lyrics here are good.
I also liked the fourth track, “What I Do for Payday?” This song has an infectious beat and nice lyrics. This has some good songwriting behind it, and the melody makes you want to sing along.
The fifth and sixth tracks lean toward classic “protest” rock of the late 60s and early 70s. “Clergy Man” definitely stands out as folk rock and has a message worth listening to.
What I like about Liza and The WonderWheels are good song writing, tight instrumentals, and lyrics that are neither too literal nor too abstract.
To learn more about Liza and The WonderWheels, visit their website atwww.lizasongs.com.
Lisa Trimarchi
Dreams
Insights
Dreams
I’ve spent a fair amount of my adult life in serving others. I helped initiate three of my children into adulthood and single-handedly provided them the support they needed to launch out on their own and start to accomplish things and discover their dreams. While doing this, I put many of my own dreams aside and fell full into serving society, family, and others. That singer and dancer stood in the wings waiting for her turn to perform. In light of life’s little dramas, getting the kids off to school, helping them graduate from high school, and preparing them for college, the performance had to be placed on hold; and the artist writer stood, pen suspended in air, for her time to create.
In the meantime, the world has continued at its pace, and like the raisin in the sun, the dreamer’s dreams seemed to shrivel. All the while the singer and dancer ached to escape the mind’s barriers and make the appearance now.
I am that artist, that dancer, that singer, and that writer.
One day I realized that another moment waiting to find my passion was a moment ill spent. I got in my car and drove cross-country. I drove from Florida to California with only a few of my belongings.
I decided to materialize my dreams out of what seemed to be nothing, and I must say that I am starting to see them become reality.
It takes courage to make changes. It takes the type of courage that causes you to go against tradition to follow your dreams. I should have laid mine down a long time ago to be replaced by responsibility. Working and making a living took precedence for many years, but did not lend me happiness.
I have a friend who emigrated here from India. His long dream to be an actor has finally taken hold in America. He had to make many sacrifices and practice a kind of selfish virtue in order to start to see his dreams materialize. He left family and friends. He set out on the impossible task of learning the acting craft and then someday performing.
“Pressure, I know pressure,” he says. “Pressure to do what your family wants, pressure to do what is right, pressure to make it in a world where you often feel unwelcome.”
In spite of all the pressure, however, he still makes time to take acting classes where he has to let down defenses that were ingrained in him from his youth, taught never to disagree or argue. Taught to be nice always. He is now letting those barriers down to allow opportunity in. He has to pause and ask, “What is it that I truly feel?” In recognizing his true feelings, he can perform and become himself in any character.
I face a similar challenge. I’ve spent a few years caring for others, putting my dreams and myself last. Now I have more freedom. With that freedom I am faced with what do I do now? For so many years all I wanted was the opportunity to do what it was I truly desired: sing, write music, and learn to play the guitar. I’ve been conditioned to seek out something useful to do to ensure that others are cared for. I now am faced with the task of countering that conditioning and discovering what it is that makes me feel fulfilled and truly happy.
Lately I’ve been leaning toward learning the guitar, taking time to dance, and making room for an ever-expanding spiritual side that has lately grown beyond my ability to contain it.
What happens to a dream deferred? In my case, as Langston Hughes so eloquently states, it explodes!
Once your dreams are allowed to spill over, there’s no knowing where they will lead you. In my case they’ve led me to California, three thousand miles from where I started.
Written by Lisa Trimarchi
Enjoy a Spa Treatment from Your Own Kitchen!
The Beauty Agenda
Enjoy a Spa Treatment from Your Own Kitchen!
that time of year when winter weather leads to dry skin and dry hair. Don’t have time or money for the spa treatment? Not to fear. You can treat yourself to the spa treatment right in your own home. Your kitchen has just what you need!
Banana Facial
This one is good for wrinkles as well as providing a mild sloughing effect. It acts as a peel and a scrub. Mash an overripe banana and mix with a little salt. Smear on your face and neck. Let it dry. Take a washcloth and scrub it off. Makes an excellent exfoliater, and a mild peel that will polish the surface of your skin. The salt acts as a mild scrub. It’s not too harsh on the skin because the salt dissolves, as you wash off the masque.
Avocado Masque
Works as an excellent skin moisturizer! Just mash a ripe avocado and slather on your face and neck. Leave on for 20 minutes and then wash off with warm water.
Papaya Facial Peel
Don’t pay hundreds of dollars to your dermatologist for a chemical peel! Papaya works just as well at a fraction of the cost.
The papaya contains an enzyme that dissolves dead skin cells and facial oils.
First remove the seeds from the papaya. Then mash a little. About one tablespoon should do it! Smooth it on your skin for about 20 minutes and then rinse off. You will feel a mild tingling sensation. Follow up with a mild moisturizer.
Olive Oil Hair Treatment
This helps repair split ends, gets rid of dandruff, and makes your hair shiny, silky, and lustrous. Massage a few tablespoons of olive oil into scalp and hair. Cover hair with a plastic cap and leave on for 30 minutes or more. Then shampoo as usual.
Mayonnaise Hair Moisturizer
Makes an excellent Hair moisturizer and scalp cleanse.
Take about 2 tablespoons of mayonnaise and slather on hair, wrap hair in plastic and cover with a towel for 1 hour. After one hour rinse off with warm water and wash hair with a good conditioning shampoo.
The following facial sauna will not only moisturize and hydrate the skin, but will also dissolve away stress.
Bowl of boiling water
Sage
Green tea bags
Dry towel
Put on some relaxing music. Add tea bags and dried sage to the bowl of boiling water. Make a tent with your towel and head over the mixture. Enjoy a few minutes of the best moisturizer and pore cleanser money didn’t buy!
Written by Lisa Trimarchi
That Time of Year
That Time of Year
The Christmas season is upon us, and while it is often disparaged as being too commercialized, I believe that is just a way for us to be less and less introspective about how even now in this day of commercialism we still find ways to bond with one another. We find ways to show we care throughout the year. We do. It’s simply more popular to put ourselves down and say we are a cold, unfeeling people who care only for ourselves. That simply is not true.
Underneath all our clothes lie our individual hearts. We feel the pressure of having to buy gifts for everyone on our list because after all, we do not want our loved ones to think we have forgotten them. We become so busy throughout the year that Christmas is simply the time we finally take to catch up on everything we missed. We’ve forgotten our grandmother in that nursing home and put off visiting her too long. We’ve neglected to call our parents and let them know we love them. Now is the time of year we find the time. We recognize our measure of peace in finally finding the time.
This is our culture. More and more we are finding the time throughout the year to give. The media has been playing a part in assisting us in lending a helping hand. More and more commercials are depicting little acts of kindness. We like to see people serving others.
All too much anymore we are seeing how short life can be and how every moment can be our last. Some of us have not become desensitized to the horrors of terrorism and war we see on our screens. I ask myself, how will I help those hungry and suffering, those frightened by forces of which they have no control?
Oh, Iraq, will there ever be peace for you? Will there ever be an end to the horrible conditions? My impulse is to pray and ask for peace. Will there be peace on earth?
I commit to letting that peace begin with me.
Some of us are having a tough time. Some of us are apart from our families and friends. Some of us are trapped in bitterness and cannot see a way out. Sometimes the hardest journey out is from within.
Sit down. Breathe. Take stock of your life and try to make an appreciation list. Maybe that bitter darkness can be penetrated by a little warmth.
And for those of you who need it, I am sending you warmth, hope and love.
Merry Christmas! Happy Hanukkah! Happy Kwanzaa! Hare Krishna!
Written by Lisa Trimarchi